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He sat beside me on the couch, close enough to touch. We didn’t speak much. He put his arms around me, cuddling me, but I was hurt. The silence between us felt heavy.

Sometimes we spent nearly all our time together. Other times he would disappear for weeks without a word. When my marriage started to decline, I found myself growing closer to him. At first, it was just companionship, but over time I became attached. I believed he felt the same.

Recently, I heard from someone else that he was getting married. He had never told me. I asked him about it, confronted him with what I’d heard. He denied it, and I believed him.

But the news came around again. Another person told me the same thing. This time, when I brought it up, he could not deny it.

I told him, “For me to learn it outside was very hurtful.”

After that, he came to my place. We didn’t speak much. He sat close, cuddling me, but I was hurt.

It isn’t that he’s getting married that troubles me most. It’s that he didn’t tell me, not after all the time we spent together and how close I thought we were. I feel betrayed.

Why didn’t he tell me?

What I took from it

It's painful to feel left in the dark, especially when you believed in a mutual closeness. His secrecy may reflect his own struggles with honesty or confrontation, rather than a reflection of your worth or the reality of your connection.

59 people went through something similar

34 of them said how it turned out

  1. It faded, with no explanation16
  2. Ended the relationship11
  3. Stayed together, conflict continued5
  4. It got better2

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