Did he come back for casual sex or something more?

I was 24, lying next to him after we’d just slept together for the first time in three months. He had disappeared, no warning, no explanation—just gone. I had spent those months hurt and confused, telling myself not to expect anything from him anymore.

Now he was back. He told me he’d been busy with work. That I was the last person he’d slept with. It all sounded so factual, like he was reading out a list of errands he’d done, not talking about us at all.

Afterwards, I told him I was seeing someone else during the time he was gone. He seemed genuinely surprised—just said, “oh you are.” I remember feeling wronged, like he had no right to expect I’d just be waiting. He never brought up our argument, never explained why he hadn’t spoken to me for three months. There was no conversation about what had happened, just a kind of skipping over it, as if that gap in time didn’t matter.

I was just feeling wronged.

He didn’t seem interested in talking about any of it. He just went over what he’d been up to, said it was mostly work, and that was it. No acknowledgment of how his absence affected me, no clarity on what he wanted now. I was left not knowing if he’d come back for something real or if this was just casual sex again.

After that, I held back. I didn’t push for answers. I decided to let things unfold naturally, but I was more cautious this time. I didn’t know what to expect anymore, or if I even wanted to expect anything from him at all.