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You're not overthinking it

Life gets shaky —
we've got your back.

Start with the question already running through your head.

Or start from one of these

Pick the one closest to yours and we will start there.

Real situations · Not advice

Dating gets confusing. See what happened to people in situations like yours.

Tell Backsie what happened. See real experiences that resemble yours. What people did next, and how it turned out.

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How Backsie works

  1. 1

    Step 1

    Tell Backsie what happened

    Type it, say it, or paste a screenshot.

  2. 2

    Step 2

    Backsie finds your real question

    Why they went quiet. Whether to reach out.

  3. 3

    Step 3

    See similar lived experiences

    What people in the same spot did, and how it went.

  4. And then

    Tell Backsie what happened next

    Come back with your outcome. It becomes someone else’s answer.

Community

Not another advice feed. Real situations you can actually compare.

Anonymous experiences, filed under the problem being solved. Ghosting, mixed signals, friendship fallout, work, family.

Browse by what happened

Every experience here was written by the person who lived it, filed under the problem they were solving. Open one to see what they did next, and how it turned out.

Frequently asked questions

Still unsure about something? Ask us at hello@backsie.co.

The basics

What happens after I tell Backsie what happened?
It works out what you’re really asking. Then it finds experiences that resemble yours, so you can compare what people did and how it went.
How does Backsie decide what is similar to my situation?
It reads the question you’re asking and the shape of the situation — the context, the decisions, what happened after.
Is Backsie only for dating?
No. Dating is where confusing situations come up most. Friendship, family, work and school work the same way.
What is an Insight Card?
A record of one experience: what happened, the decision, what you did, how it went, what you learned. Keep it private, or share it anonymously.

Privacy & trust

Are these stories from real people?
They come from real people. Every one is anonymous, and only appears if the person chose to share it.
Do I have to share my experience?
No. It can stay private. Share an anonymous version and it can help someone facing the same thing.
Is Backsie telling me what I should do?
No. It shows you how similar situations played out. Someone else’s outcome is not yours, and the decision stays with you.
Is Backsie a clinical or mental-health treatment product?
No. Backsie is not a diagnosis, treatment, crisis or medical product. It is for adults aged 18 and over.

Thank you!